Divorced? Or Getting a Divorce? If you have children then READ THIS NOW
I am not exactly sure what happens when two adult start going through the divorce process. It seems that all the brain cells in their heads take a vacation. For some this is a permenant vacation. They begin acting like spoiled little brats. No longer able to think about anything but themselves. The beautiful children that they both had promised to love and protect seem to no longer be their children. Instead these children become pawns in the war of the exes.
I am baffled at how parents can do this crap to their kids. I don't care how much your ex hurt you or how much of a fight you two are putting up over the house or expenses or how much money she wants from you, or how little money he is offering you. This crap is grownup shit that should be kept between the grownups. Never should a child hear any of these or be put in a place to choose sides.
Guess what even if you tell your child that they should still love their other parent, if you let them see the fighting or talking negative about the other parent. Your child will choose sides. So keep your mouth shut about the ADULT STUFF.
So if you are getting a divorce or already divorced please take the time to read these two articles. They may help you to learn how to be better divorced parents. Know some one going through a divorce or who is divorced then forward them on. You may just save a child from years of hurt, anger and heartache.
What Parents Need to Know About Self Cutting
As parents we don't want to believe that our child could do something like that. We view it as something stupid that our kid knows better than to do. We hear about it but we don't pay to much attention to it. After all self cutting is only something that other peoples kids do. Kids that are playing in the gothic scene or are depressed. We tell ourselves that this does not fit our kid. Well guess what, the gothic scene does not bring about self cutting. And the obvious signs of depression may not be apparent in your child. This is something serious that all parents need to be aware of. The link below will take you to an article that will explain in detail what self cutting is and warning signs to look for.